5 Secrets of Styling Curly Hair

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I’m sure many of you have noticed the recent curl-revolution, of sorts, between Dove’s ‘Love Your Curls’ commercials, and the ‘Curl Power’ campaign segment on the Today show. The overall message is for girls with naturally curly hair to embrace and love their hair for what it is, in a straightener-dependent society. I don’t know when we all started following the man(or woman)-written belief that straight hair looked better, but I can recall myself taking on this trend in 7th grade (15 years ago). But before the straightening iron, clamping the curling iron at your roots and tugging downward through your strands didn’t exactly give you a sleek style.

My family has always preferred my curly hair, but it wasn’t until multiple boyfriends and friends told me how much they liked my natural texture that I decided that MAYBE I could pull it off. Especially in the past few years I’ve really embraced my natural curls and now wear it this way about 75% of the time. Letting it go free and curly definitely has its benefits too, including healthier hair without the heat damage and saving loads of time.

I’m going to share with you today the tips and tricks I’ve learned to keep my curls from going straight 80s perm style (boy would I have fit in back then). Continue reading

Oscars Winners in Fashion

After dedicating four hours of my life last night to the Oscars, I couldn’t go without a post gushing over my faves! To be honest, I had many moments of “what were you THINKING??” last night, but there were some stand-outs that made up for it. Here are the ladies that wow’ed me and have kept me staring. And no, I don’t care what the men wore, because tuxes just can’t be that exciting (aka, girls rule).

Rosamund Pike

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Talk about stunning…this Givenchy gown has such a romantic feel to it, and her soft hair and makeup complement it perfectly. I love the detail of the custom made rose-like fabric with the scalloped edge at the neckline. This is one of those gowns that just screams ‘Oscars.’

Margot Robbie

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 Margot is so drop-dead gorgeous that I don’t think she could ever truly look bad in anything, but this was a look that I was instantly lusting over. She gave us something different than your typical Oscars dress in this chiffon Saint Laurent with the long flowing sleeves, and a blue tassel necklace that pulled the entire look together. Must. Become. Her.

Emma Stone

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It wasn’t just the color of Emma Stone’s gown that sold me, but the coloring of the entire look. The jeweled chartreuse fabric laid so flawlessly against her fair skin and red hair, with a coral lip to finish it off. I can’t imagine anyone wearing it better.

Sienna Miller

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It’s only fair to divulge that this woman can do almost no wrong in my book…and the same goes for her designer. This navy and black Oscar de la Renta gown manages to stay consistent with Sienna’s edgy style while adding a feminine touch of subtle bows. She kept the jewelry, hair, and makeup minimal in order to let the gown do the talking.

What a girl’s dream…having your hair and makeup polished to perfection before stepping into the most exquisite piece of clothing that you could imagine! As a lover of beauty, the Oscars brings a lot of it to one red carpet in one night!

Purple Shampoo 101:

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If you have either (a) naturally gorgeous hair color, or (b) the willpower to not indulge at the salon, you don’t know that disappointing feeling of looking in the mirror and realizing that the $100+ hair color you paid for a few weeks ago has, well….changed color. Any time you lighten (or lift) your hair color, it has a natural tendency to fade into warmer shades and, oftentimes, that dreaded brassy color. While some beauties can pull off those warm and rich golden tones, it certainly isn’t a good look on me. To combat those brassy, orange-ish colors, your hair stylist uses a colored toner at the salon to achieve the desired shade. Once this toner fades over a certain number of washes, it’s back to the salon for another $30-40 toner sesh.

I really hadn’t put much thought into this after not coloring my hair at all for seven years, until about two weeks ago, when I hit ultimate boredom with my appearance and decided to take the plunge. Pinterest also fueled the fire by introducing me to the more recently seen “ashy brown” color that I had to have (refer to pics). I’m a researcher at heart, and I don’t take a big decision, including my hair color, lightly. My ashy brown searches led me to what seemed like a miracle product! Purple shampoo? This is a thing? I had never believed that a shampoo could actually change the color of your hair, since they’re all just marketing ploys anyway – right? If you refer to my handy-dandy color wheel below, purple and deep purple are the exact opposite of yellow and orange, which is why they neutralize the gold/brass tones. While some of you might be a little skeptical of putting a color like purple on your hair and turning all Katy Perry, I assure you that a shampoo, used properly, doesn’t have that kind of power. By “neutralizing” the brassiness, I mean that it brings your hair color back toward the cool side of the color temperature spectrum, which is where I want to be.

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While many of these shampoos advertise or even state on the bottle that they are used for blonde or gray hair, it can be just as beneficial for brunettes with lighter highlights. It’s recommended that you begin by using the purple shampoo every other time you shampoo, and then adjusting based on your own results. To combat higher levels of brassiness, you can use it every time you shampoo. If your color is getting too ashy, reduce your usage to every three or four shampoos. However, you should know that these shampoos tend to dry your hair out, so you should be using a moisturizing conditioner or mask paired with it. I personally use “it’s a 10 Miracle Deep Conditioner plus Keratin” and LOVE it. Also, feel free to mix a concoction of half purple shampoo and half of your regular shampoo to reap the benefits of both.

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(note: picture is not my own hair)

I have been using Clairol Shimmer Lights, which I conveniently was able to find at my neighborhood Walgreens. Here are some other popular and tested brands that you can find online, in the hair care aisle, or at a beauty store or salon.

Sheer Blonde Tone-Correcting line by John Frieda
Blonda by Unite
Color Endure Violet by Joico
Happy at-home toning!
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The “V” Word

BalloonsI want to begin with the “V” word, because it encompasses everything that I’m feeling right now, and it’s also a driving force behind my motivation to begin writing. The “V” word is vulnerability, and it has been in the forefront of my mind these past few weeks, thanks to a thought-provoking book written by Brené Brown called “Daring Greatly.” In the book, Brown teaches that “Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. To feel is to be vulnerable.” It’s something we can all relate to, as it’s impossible to avoid in life. Much to the dismay of the escape artist in my head, I am making a personal attempt to view this cringe-inducing word as a positive, and to dive in headfirst.

In the world that I see, vulnerability is typically associated with thoughts of negative emotions, such as fear, rejection, and disappointment. But when looking at it from a glass-half-full of wine perspective, it’s undeniable that vulnerability is also engrained in the emotions we most seek in life. To again quote Brown, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy and creativity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.”

Now how does this all relate to me? I have long brushed off the recurring desire to begin writing, hugely due to the vulnerability tied to publishing my thoughts on the internet (because once it’s out there, it never truly goes away, right?). Another drawback was thinking about how absurd it would be for anyone to care about what I had to say on this little webpage. I’m still battling the fear of being judged and criticized by anyone reading these words, including acquaintances and peers, moreso than just strangers. However, I’ve decided I need to let loose the reigns and get outside my comfort zone in order to feel MORE and explore MORE. With the encouragement of a loving girlfriend and the need for a creative outlet, I decided to start this blog.

This is part of a greater self-improvement journey that I’ve prescribed to myself for 2015, which will have a continual presence throughout these posts. I promise to provide much more exciting content than the personal feelings I’ve shared here today. However, in my goal to be open and honest in my words, this felt like the best way to begin. As I unravel more of the topics I plan to discuss, I will continue learning and sharing, while keeping the words of a wise Dr. Seuss in my head:

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”